Research suggests that those who suffer from a lack of confidence also likely struggle with anxiety, stress, relationships, physical health, finances and more.
This topic is near and dear to my heart because I faced all of the challenges listed above at one point in my life, and in true Lindsay fashion, I set out in search of a solution to my problem.
So what did I do? I tested the two different ways I thought I could gain confidence.
Watch the video below or keep reading to learn my FOOLPROOF METHOD for gaining true confidence!
Method 1: The “fake it 'til you make it approach”
This is the approach I used to swear by.
It was like a life motto for me! “Fake it ’til you make it!” is what I used to tell my friends, co-workers and anyone else who would listen with a big smile on my face. I went along with this idea of fake it ’til you make it for years. I was truly convinced that if I faked my confidence, or whatever other trait or skill I was trying to learn, I would eventually succeed in receiving that confidence or skill.
It definitely worked sometimes, but for the most part, even when I “made it”, there was a lingering feeling I wasn’t good enough.
…and that lingering feeling always seemed to catch up to me.
Going to get a little vulnerable here to really hit my point home…
I LOVE fashion and numbers. One day, at a job I disliked but paid the bills, I took a moment to think about how I could combine my two loves and make some money doing it. That’s when I stumbled upon the role as a Fashion Buyer. I didn’t know much about the fashion world or how it operated. I just knew I loved shopping and putting outfits together.
Fast forward – I go to fashion school while working that job I didn’t like, and right after I graduate, I land a job at a fashion company.
I was ESTACTIC and nervous!
My schooling taught me how to crunch retail numbers, market and understand fabrics, but I was still nervous.
Here I was, a small town girl that took a leap of faith and moved to Cali and 5 years later am working in DTLA (downtown Los Angeles) at a fashion company!
My dreams had come true, and yet I DID NOT FEEL WORTHY.
That lack of worthiness translated to a lack of confidence. But, I was still determined to fake it ’til I made it!
The job itself was easy for me to do, but the environment was what really threw me for a loop. I left the stuffy world of insurance to land at a thriving, hip, super cool-girl fashion brand all to feel VERY out of place. My confidence was basically zero as I compared myself to every woman in that building day in and day out.
Then, my next fashion job was as a Buyer.
NOW I REALLY HIT THE JACKPOT!
My dream had completely manifested, but once again, I lacked my confidence. The story ends with me being laid off. I was basically eaten alive by some not-so-nice colleagues, and I was so over it. My fake it ’til you make it approach failed me.
Foolproof Method: Invest in Yourself & Shower Yourself with Love
I love my body by working out every day, eating healthy and staying hydrated. I love my soul and mind by showing gratitude, helping others, learning and implementing new knowledge, and meditating.
When I feel strong, I am confident. When I feel in alignment with my purpose, I feel confident. When I learn something new and implement until I get the hang of it, I feel confident. When I am in flow, writing and working from a place of love, fun and joy, I feel confident.
Loving yourself, in my opinion, is the fastest and most ever-lasting way to self-confidence.
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xo,
Lindsay
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